Articles by Dr. Chris Miller

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A Different Kind of Deadbeat Parent

Battle Lines – When Kids Are Caught in the Middle

Meet Your New Mommy

When Anger Goes Too Far

When Couples Wait Too Long

Books by Dr. Chris Miller

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Recommended Books

Boundaries
by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives:

  • Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances
  • Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions
  • Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others
  • Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God’s will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator

Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask:

  • Can I set limits and still be a loving person?
  • What are legitimate boundaries?
  • What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?
  • How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money?
  • Aren’t boundaries selfish?
  • Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?

Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer biblically-based answers to these and other tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves.

 

Boundaries in Marriage
by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

Learn when to say yes and when to say no–to your spouse and to others–to make the most of your marriage Only when a husband and wife know and respect each other’s needs, choices, and freedom can they give themselves freely and lovingly to one another. Boundaries are the ‘property lines’ that define and protect husbands and wives as individuals. Once they are in place, a good marriage can become better, and a less-than-satisfying one can even be saved. Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, counselors and authors of the award-winning best-seller Boundaries, show couples how to apply the 10 laws of boundaries that can make a real difference in relationships. They help husbands and wives understand the friction points or serious hurts and betrayals in their marriage—and move beyond them to the mutual care, respect, affirmation, and intimacy they both long for.

Boundaries in Marriage helps couples:

  • Set and maintain personal boundaries and respect those of their spouse
  • Establish values that form a godly structure and architecture for their marriage
  • Protect their marriage from different kinds of ‘intruders’
  • Work with a spouse who understands and values boundaries—or work with one who doesn’t
 

Boundaries in Dating
by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

Between singleness and marriage lies the journey of dating. Want to make your road as smooth as possible? Set and maintain healthy boundaries—boundaries that will help you grow in freedom, honesty, and self-control. If many of your dating experiences have been difficult, Boundaries in Dating could revolutionize the way you handle relationships. Even if you’re doing well, the insights you’ll gain from this much-needed book can help you fine-tune or even completely readjust important areas of your dating life. Written by the authors of the bestselling book Boundaries, Boundaries in Dating is your road map to the kind of enjoyable, rewarding dating that can take you from weekends alone to a lifetime with the soul mate you’ve longed for.

 

Boundaries with Kids
by Dr Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

What the award-winning Boundaries has done for adult relationships, Boundaries with Kids will do for you and your children Here is the help you need for raising your kids to take responsibility for their actions, attitudes, and emotions. Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend take you through the ins and outs of instilling the kind of character in your children that will help them lead balanced, productive, and fulfilling adult lives. Learn how to :

  • Set limits and still be a loving parent
  • Bring control to an out-of-control family life
  • Apply the ten laws of boundaries to parenting
  • Define appropriate boundaries and consequences for your kids … and much more. ‘

Boundaries with Kids helps us give our kids the skills they need to live realistic and full lives in meaningful relationships. Not perfect—but healthy!’ —Elisa Morgan, president of MOPS International, Inc.

 

Inside Out
by Dr. Larry Crabb

The Promise of Real Change. You don’t have to pretend you’ve got it all together . . . when you don’t. You don’t have to pretend your best relationship deeply satisfies . . . when it doesn’t. You don’t have to pretend your struggle with sin is a thing of the past . . . when it isn’t. “Only Christians have the capacity to never pretend,” says Larry Crabb. That’s because real change is possible only when you face the realities of your internal life and let God mold you into a person who is free to be honest, courageous, and loving. If you want a more vital union with God, a richer relationship with others, and a deeper sense of personal wholeness, let Larry Crabb help you look inside yourself and discover how God works real, liberating change when you live from the inside out.

 

Wounded Heart
by Dr. Dan Allender

You may think you don’t know anyone who has been sexually abused, especially if most of your friends and acquaintances are Christians. But the statistics indicate otherwise. The Wounded Heart is an intensely personal and specific look at this most “soul deadening” form of abuse. Personal because it may be affecting you, your spouse, a close friend or neighbor, or someone you know well at church; and specific because it goes well beyond the general issues and solutions discussed in other books.

Dr. Allender’s book reaches deep into the wounded heart of someone you know, exploring the secret lament of the soul damaged by sexual abuse and laying hold of the hope buried there by the One whose unstained image we all bear.

Telling Yourself the Truth
by William Backus and Marie Chapin

Most of what happens in your life happens because of the way you think. Wrong thinking produces wrong emotions, wrong reactions, wrong behavior—and unhappiness! Learning to deal with your thoughts is the first step on the road to healthy thinking.

How to handle one’s thoughts properly is what this book is all about. It explains the life-changing method the authors call Misbelief Therapy, and it can work for you:

  • In your home
  • In your own circumstances
  • In your own problems
  • In your own adverse environment
  • in your own thinking

Based on the Bible, this book has helped thousands of people for many years, and it can help you!